Has this ever happened to you: You’re in a conversation with a friend who makes a suggestion, or you’re arguing with your partner about making a decision together, and you feel yourself pushing back – when you notice your resistant reaction in the moment??
In a lunch meeting with a well-meaning friend, she assumed that based on my leadership role in the community, that I must be struggling to deal with many different people and interests, and invited me to participate in a support group. No, I responded, I’m not interested! And I took umbrage because I hadn’t asked for her help!
Then I caught myself in the act of resistance and burst out laughing!!
After which I said: Ok, now I’m ready to listen! 🙂
I’m not sure how often that happens. For myself, I can probably count the number of times on one hand. You?
Part of our developmental journey is to be able to notice our own reaction – to shorten the time between the event and our noticing of our reaction. As we work on our self-awareness I think we may begin to shorten the reaction time.
What’s your experience with noticing your reaction in the moment?
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